It’s funny how you forget {block out perhaps?} aspects of Motherhood.
Mommy amnesia you could call it. You somehow forget the pain of childbirth {enough to be willing to do it again!}, where your car keys are, and the angst and frustration of certain stages.
Me, I had forgotten all about the joys of two year olds. Terrible Two’s, huh, what’s that?
Carys has hit the Terrible Two’s quite suddenly, and seriously friends, THE DRAMA that has entered our house. The girl can pull a temper tantrum like no ones business. To be completely honest, it scares me…… I mean, I only had brothers {3}. Boys I’m used to, and I can’t help but wonder if the Terrible Two’s of today are but a glimpse of the Terrible Teenage years of tomorrow??? Am I cut out for 13 year old girl drama??
The main struggle at the moment is clothes. I know, I know, she’s TWO, IT’S NUTS! She has decided that only dresses are pretty and therefore she shall where nothing else.
Today arrived and it was cloudy and yucky and NOT a good dress day. Playing on the playground at daycare wouldn’t work in a dress on such a cold day. So I brought out the jeans and t-shirt.
All I can say is wow. Like, WOW. Tears, snot, wailing. {Momma’s you know the story}
In the midst of the performance I asked her, “Carys, are you done yet?”
I kid you not, she stopped {tears, thrashing, snot, kicking, the whole shebang}, looked at me, and said “Not yet” in a calm voice. Then she went back to her tears/thrashing/snot performance. The girl should get an Oscar. It was truly impressive.
I would have been a bad Momma to grab a camera to record the performance for the purpose of a blog post. Tempting though.
Ah, I love that girl. The sweetness far outweighs the drama. Definitely.
:-/ With only 1 boy, terrible 2s were more about keeping up with him and ensuring he didn’t get into trouble. Few tantrums. Yikes!! Love your story thought. I’m glad you wrote it down because you’ll want to share it with her one day!!!
About clothing… if you’re not already doing so, try and include her in the choice. Lay out 2 options and ask her which she’d like. Of course she may not like either and you may get that tantrum again, but she may like the “power” and control that choice gives her.
Good luck lovely friend… your Carys truely is a sweetie, tantrums and all!!
V
Ah, yes, the terrible twos! I think I got through the whole 2′s & 3′s simply because the extreme horrible moments were balanced out by extreme cute and heartwarming moments that made me remember why I’d had kids. ; ) Enjoy the ride!!
Ah! Ha!….I say pick your battles!….If its not immoral dangerous to herself & others…hmm there is another one…from the book “How To Get Your Kids To Mind Without Loosing Yours”….In that dreamy picture of her sleeping, hard to believe they can have a melt down moment!
Our girls are 20 & 22…..time flies! A strong will is not a bad thing!…It helps them later with peer pressure!
My daughter is almost five now, but she had her share of terrible two (and three) moments. I found the best way to deal with tantrums was to walk away. She always seemed to stop much sooner without an audience. But of course that’s not always possible. She still loves dresses most of all, so we’ve stocked up on leggings and cardis for chilly days.
I am right there with you momma! I have three brothers ,too. My baby girl will be 2 next month, if this is just practice for terrible two’s than I am in BIG trouble! I never know what is going to set her off, and she acquires super natural strength during her ” episodes” . My mantra is it is just a phase and this too shall pass. Oh, did I mention she is baby # 5 ? so , to answer your question, yes there is still drama at 13 and 17,ha;)
Karla, she is the CUTEST little girl, and as much as tantrums are difficult I just adore that she is already showing such a girly personality
And she speaks her opionion! What a doll.
Nancy xo
Oh, my goodness. My niece went through the same exact thing, would only wear dresses and this went on from about 2-5 years old! She finally got out of it and now as a teenager, never wants to wear a dress.
Yes, I feel your pain having gone through that with not one girl but two! They are now very well adjusted teenagers, both with a “strong” head on their shoulders! It will pass, just always be consistent. That is my two bits on parenting!
My little girl is two as well. She’s a drama queen just like Carys. They have to grow out of it eventually, right? I find myself praying for patience a whole lot these days. Hang in there, mommy!
There is that necessary balance between being the cutest little thing and the monster who runs around in circles yelling no, no, no !!!!! I guess it’s just another stage and before you know it, she’ll be into another one.
I am so glad I found your blog! Love it.
I have 3 brothers too {no sisters} and now have 2 girls. The drama! Mine a a little older than yours, but I fear the teen years. We will have to share notes.
xo,
cristin